We all have particular weaknesses, and it is helpful to acknowledge these honestly. When we recognize where we are weak, we can set up boundaries to give us support in these areas of weakness. We may need to clearly communicate to others the boundary lines we have defined, and then hold each other accountable to them. Once the boundaries have been established, honesty is needed to maintain them.
Jacob and his father-in-law, Laban, had some conflicts. As they were working them out, they entered into an agreement by drawing a clearly defined boundary line and setting up a monument to remind them of that commitment. "May the Lord keep watch between us to make sure that we keep this treaty when we are out of each other's sight. ...The heap of stones and this pillar stand between us as a witness of our vows" (Genesis 31:49,51-52). Then Jacob vowed before God to respect the boundary line.
Recognizing our areas of weakness allows us to take precautions to make sure we don't give into our weaknesses. When we see areas where we need to set limits in our lives, we can ask God to help us. We can also ask others to watch our behavior in that area. While others can hold us accountable, however, we must always remember that we are personally responsible for our own honesty before the watchful eye of God.
Letter # 23 (13. 6. 2010)